What does it mean to be in balance? Do the scales of justice come to your mind? Would balance mean having an equal amount of good and bad, happiness and sadness, work and play. Or would you imagine something weighted a bit more on the positive side of the scale?
Whatever the mix, balance is temporary. It requires constant readjustment because life is always changing. Like an airplane on a transcontinental flight, you are off course more than 90% of the time. Balance is about doing the work to get back on the path.
Balance is dynamic
To create balance we must learn to accept whatever life throws us — the bad as well as good days, pain along with pleasure. It is the contrasts that make life interesting. We would not enjoy the light if there were no darkness. A painting without variation or shadow would be dull and boring. Acceptance of this principal comes easier when we remember that we only grow and evolve in times of difficulty and challenge. Trees at the edge of a forest are the strongest because they are regularly buffeted by the wind.
Awareness and Action
Getting into balance or back on course requires both awareness and action. We need to be aware of when we are off course in order to course correct. One sign is too much negativity in our lives, too much pain or unhappiness. Don’t waste any thoughts on beating yourself up, or anyone else, it is simply time to adjust your course. In this disaster-focused culture of ours it is easy to fall into a pattern of worry, complaining and blame. This mindset is toxic to our body and spirit and will cause illness, premature aging and even death. Once you become aware of the negative pattern, you must work to shift it. You can start with gratitude, i.e. notice what is good in your life and focus on that. Also, cut out as many sources of negative energy as you can.
Expect Challenge When You Invite Change
Sometime life flows and sometimes we go through bumpy patches. This is especially true before we are getting ready for jump to a new level. Although the old level is too confining, too limiting, the required leap into the unknown can feel scary and trigger fear. Balance is accepting that fear is part of the process and act anyway.
When we feel threatened by challenge or change, our bodies go into a survival mode and we operate from the lower brainstem. It is a very reactive, protective mode that does not invite creative solutions. The body is a powerful force with an arsenal of chemical that can rule your thoughts.
Learn how to friend your body
Join me on Voice America with host Rebecca Hall Gruyter this Thursday and learn what you can do to shift out of survival mode and into balance.
Falling Back Into Balance
Thursday, August 1
11 am – 12 pm
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There will be a replay
One of the tools I will be sharing will help you get back in balance when that survival response is triggered.
Falling into balance is not about being perfect of getting it right. It’s about treating everything as perfection—up days and down days. It’s ok to have meltdowns, to lose your temper or even have an argument. Although we are spiritual beings, we are living a human adventure. The body has its own agenda and sometimes, as my Sufi teacher would often say, Give the dog a bone, i.e. appease the animal self, soothe it and make it feel safe and loved again.